Too nice?

“You’re too nice of a person”

 

These words were said to me late last week. Just made me think about it all & laugh a little. A good friend of mine pretty much told me those words. Not because it’s a compliment, but because apparently it’s why most of my relationships have failed. I thought that being the “nice” guy kept relationships going? Made them last long? I must be living in a parrallel universe then lol. Do women really prefer a jerk or a douchebag attitude these days over someone with morals? You got me.

 

Okay, so these words did make me think of my past relationships. In hindsight, I HIGHLY doubt this was the case. When looking back at a true bulk of them (only ones that were a good 6 months-plus), I have been with a colorful cast of characters it seems, & I use that term “colorful” loosely. My longest relationship ended 8 years ago, when the girl pretty much became the online bicycle inviting anyone & everyone she chatted with to meet up with her & get a ride while I was in college. Got wind of it, got the hell out of Dodge. Definitely wasn’t a case of being the “nice” guy there. I was pretty much a victim of the “trophy” boyfriend issue as well before. In other words, only being treated as I mattered when THAT person wanted to show me off when it was convenient for them. Than there was the psycho broad 4 years ago. We’ve all had that one in our lifetime, one who pretty much does anything for attention, like threatening to harm themselves not because they suffer from mental issues, but because they are looking for attention due to you having a prior engagement & not postponing the important issue for them. And we don’t need to get into the last relationship, for obvious reasons as we know the story there.

 

All serious relationships, all ones I got out of. But was I too “nice”? As stated before, this might be a guy who has moments where random dirty jokes fly out of my mouth, swear constantly, but I am who I am because I have morals, standards. Not high ones, but ones built upon a rock of life. I stand by those. If people can’t understand that, oh well. We’re all human. I just choose to build my life upon a foundation of rock, not of sand. Build your life on sand, & it shall sink. Build it upon a rock, & your strengths will persevere through time.

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I’m lucky to be living right now

I’m lucky to be typing this today.

 

No, really…I’m lucky to be typing this today. Three weeks ago, I might have not seen today. There could have been a possibility that my life might have ended between January 27th, and today. Or even the chance that it might have been on the verge of slowly ending.

 

WHY am I saying this? Well first, let me backtrack to January 26th. 2:35 in the morning.

 

For starters, my kidneys were in a slight amount of pain that morning. But the most pain was closer to my abdomen, more along the lower area. Slightly swollen. It had been like that before, but not as bad as it was that day. Ever. Being that early in the morning, I couldn’t call in to work, as nobody was there until the three openers (myself one of them), arrived. Luckily, it was a short shift that morning & I told myself “I’ll see how it goes after I get out, go from there”. I only had until 12:30 until I had to go to my other job. After getting out, I was fine for a while, but then it started to bother me. and not just a small amount…quite a bit. Taking no chances, I went to urgent care.

 

Arriving there, it was a case of that bothersome swollen lump in that certain area and my kidneys. 45 minutes later, the doctor saw me. Not as much worried about the kidneys (because let’s face it, if you have kidney pains…cranberry juice can help only SOOOOOO much), the doctor saw me and said those words you dread to hear… “Get over to the ER right now”.

 

Inguinal hernia was the diagnosis. Nothing easy to just pop back into place either. Surgery was required, but they waited until the next morning to do so.

 

Now the surgery itself was ridiculous. Anesthesia took quite a while to kick in, and once I was knocked out…I didn’t want to wake up. Oh, I did when I was in recovery…but, I kept drifting between the awake and unconscious zone.

 

My doctor told me some things though, that made me think about life. This hernia problem that I had, was really bad. A nice gash right below my intestine that caused it to drop down and wrap itself around my lower regions (I’m trying to keep this clean peeps). And in the process, it was trying to close up while the intestine had dropped down there. Seal the gap, cause the intestine to shut and lose functions and form a blockage. In other words, had I not gone to get it checked out, things could have been much worse than they originally were, and would have been.

 

I avoided death, and did so by getting it checked when I felt it was too much to handle.

 

The last 3 weeks have been struggles indeed. Almost 2 weeks to not walk hunched over. Walking is at an awkward stance due to my surgery (that swelling in the area that was operated on hurts like a mofo yo, walking straight causes pain still). Normal house stairs take 2 minutes for me to walk up instead of the normal 30 seconds. My normal routines for the moment involve just putting dishes away one at a time and sitting down to fold laundry. Bending down? Yeah, right. That’s taking longer to do due to the healing process…I can’t even bend down to pick my 5 pound dog up, that’s how crazy it is! No bending down, no heavy lifting (surprisingly, my pommie is too much at 5 pounds though, don’t get it).

 

But pretty much, I’m lucky to be typing this today. Still some small pain from recovery, but lucky to be blogging this. If you ever feel anything strange or any sort of pain, don’t wait until the last minute to go to urgent care people, it may be too late before you know it.

Just simple pondering

We all have moments in life we ponder, it is a part of life, and it is a part of growing up and becoming what we all know of as “being an adult”. Nearing 30 and the prime of my life, having Asperger’s I have struggled to find a niche and try to make light of subjects so I could grow as a human being. One thing that has helped me in more ways than one, is this blog in general. Designed as a “shoot” blog, speaking my mind and my opinions on topics, life, subjects, anything really.

One question to ponder, when we love in relationships, but others don’t love or have feeling TO love, do we continue to care and reach out? Is it wrong to do so? Maybe certain people that are in my life don’t love me, or never have, or struggled to try to and weren’t able to reach that plateau, but is it necessary to make one feel wrong for feeling something or trying to? If it isn’t, then it isn’t, it is just something we have to agree to disagree and move on to the next step in life. Maybe people in my life were never in love from the start, or at any point, but another thing to ponder…someone says the 3 magic words for 6 months, is it because they truly do, or are they hiding behind a mask, not to make one feel hurt that they cannot comprehend the feeling one might consider love?

Another question to ponder, what is manipulation in a sense? The skillful handling, or controlling of someone or using someone is the official dictionary definition we are taught. If you tell someone you care about them…is that manipulation? No. If you say to them that you would feel lost if they weren’t in your life…manipulation? For years, we were taught this is okay by society, but according to psychological standards and practices, apparently this is no longer the case or the norm. Apparently, did you know this is considered abusive and manipulative language? You didn’t? Neither did I…this is new news to me, and I watch the news and keep up with current events as much as I can, how did I not see this one??

And to my friends out there reading, apparently don’t ever say that “if we were to not be together, I would feel hurt and broken” either. Same boat as the other brought up. Showing love and saying things that normal people almost always do, is now considered bad by society and makes you seem controlling. Wow…who would have thought that those only just recently with a piece of paper from a University that make you shell out 75 smackarooskis would change society’s way of views, or is it a skewed view only few wish to see?

Another thing to ponder, when you are spending time with someone you care about, are you with them because it’s out of your own free will, or is that manipulation too? Do you enjoy building something strong, do you enjoy having fun with them? OR the big question to ponder, are you there with them…because family sees happiness inside of you? Is it “pressuring” if family knows best and sees a 180 inside of you for the better with someone that does that to you? Because they say how much your life has gotten better because of them…is that “pressure” to stay with someone?

There is always a door to exit, a door to leave. If things are going rough, not going well…just get out. Maybe someone will get emotional if it happens, maybe not, it’s not manipulation if one sheds a tear for something like this, it’s normal for us to do, especially if things seemed strong, and worked out. Words might be said, maybe they won’t. These types of things cause a fight all the time. To quote a country song “There ain’t no good guy, and there ain’t no bad guy. It’s just you and me, and we just disagree”.

And if one is confused over the situation, the next thing to ponder…do we make them hurt more than they are? Do we tell them they have no right to be confused or question things as you don’t love them and never had emotions towards one? No, let them be confused, explain it, and if it still confuses the person, than so be it. Anyone on the Autism spectrum, Aspergers or not, we all have our moments of confusion. And sometimes, maybe emotions are hard for us to understand, or simple things, but it’s not something we attack one for. And if they say something on social media about being confused, and someone comments saying they feel bad or that you can do better…is it right for the other to hate someone for doing that or allowing people to say that? It definitely seems like because of social media, people do tend to take things a lot more seriously and to heart than they would have 10-15 years ago.

Gotta bring this one up as it happened to me the other day too. One of my social media pages was hacked into, someone posted something on a page, it wasn’t me, but I got chewed up for it. Swore up and down, as others got stuff I never said either on their page that I came to find out, and person believed me. I went as far as to change my password and information! THEN, here’s another something to ponder…same person told me to screw off, because a few days later I did comment on something, and then they felt the urge to go off!

Anyone who knows me knows I am a good friend and will always be loyal no matter the situation, one of the best friends people can have. I mean well, and even if I struggle to see something and get confused, I always mean well no matter what. YES, I was hurt and felt crushed by a situation that took place this weekend, and at the time it happened, felt confused too as I truly had feelings, but it is something I am over, and got over quick in the last 24 hours or so. And I can only offer friendship, but it can only go over so much. But being able to talk about things civilly, and calm, are 2 key things in this world we need to do as they call, “be adult”. Blowing up on people for asking questions, accusing others of things they never did, is not adulting in this world, neither is scolding one for confusion and having a hard time understanding the situation. Talking it over, discussing it, and clearing the air so to speak, is adulting though.

Life itself: A 2 edged sword, and pride

This is my pipe bomb, my Hard Times, my peace of mind. A journey to the center of the craziness that is LR if ya willlll…..sweet mercy, even when I try to talk normal, it feels like a wrestling promo….I watch it too much!

There is a lot of things in the past several months that I have came to realize. 29 years it took for me to see the light. When you think you have seen it all, heard it all, there is always a different truth that shows when you least expect it. Life as we know it, tends to show us true colors, hidden agendas, and deal us swords. Some of them two-edged. The world is a sword, waiting to stab, waiting to be swung. One thing I wonder about life….people who try to preach the good word, claim kindness is the answer (no, this isn’t me folks, I am a kind person, have my quirks, but keep best interests at heart), but don’t deliver the kindness in return? How can one be all about positivity, when the reaction is borderline curmudgeon then? Two-edged sword! When people in this life ask for you to turn it up to 11, but yet still don’t hear that one louder, a foot away, is it because they can’t? Or is it the selective hearing process all together, choosing not to or whom they hear? And turning words into negativity? Two-edged sword!

Having struggled most of my life, learning disabilities have made things impossible for me to notice. Very little comes my way, but I have taken everything in stride….is that wrong? Having Tourettes, I my mind sometimes swears up a storm for no reason, or even causes me to have neck tics, eye tics, facial tics….is that wrong? Having Aspergers, a form of the Autism spectrum, brings me to certain focuses.

When I zoom in, oh lord, do I zoom the fuck in. My mind is one-track, my focus is on one thing, one goal…to get something accomplished (or the occasional in-depth music review or pro wrestling history, that’s for another time lol). Sometimes I focus too much, that I lose notice of my surroundings, but is that wrong?

People giving me death glances because my focus is on what is in front of me, a huge part of the two-edged sword deal. Being an Aspie has its good sides, like that focus, but the bad side being losing focus and being stared at with the death glare. When you struggle to learn, reach out for help, answers, etc., and nobody wants to lend that helping hand, the answers never there when needed for you, but for others in plain sight….is that wrong?

And don’t get me started on people in this world talking to you like you are stupider than they are just because I might forget something or am not up to speed on something. I might have a form of Autism, but please, for the love of God, I am not in any way, shape, or form, stupid, dumb, lower than you on the totem pole, or even the “R” word.

I am who I am, and I am me. No ego trips here, no favorites, no gimmicks needed, just good ‘ol LR. I might not be every other 29 year old in life. Maybe I struggle to be where I want to be, maybe life has been a rocky road, but there are two things that I have that I know I can count on the most when I can’t count on anything else (well, three if you count my voice of reason, shout out time…luv ya babe!).

The first thing I can count on, is my faith. Maybe I don’t speak much about it, but I do believe God has his ways. There is a plan for everyone, and a plan for everything. It might take a short time, it might take a while (or in my case, still going in some parts). The other thing I have is my pride. No matter the trials, the tribulations, good times, hard times….my pride is what gets me through all I have encountered. I will never sacrifice who I am to become someone I am not, stick to my guns all situations blazing. Is that wrong? The one side of the blade may say yes, but the other side, my side, will never say that. Never say die, never say quit, never give up.

And if that is wrong, then I am glad I will be right and true to myself.

My Top 15 list: 1980s One Hit Wonders

So, for this blog, I decided to do something different, as I am a music person in general. Most people know me as the hard rock fan, old school heavy metal, you get the drill. However, a lot of people don’t realize my guilty pleasure: the 80s. The music especially, there were plenty of good times, good music, just overall fun. Some artists had that it factor that kept them around for years, chart giants and even tracks that became signature for the decade. But then, there were the ones who only saw the view once. Got their taste, and then faded out as quickly as they arrived. The one hit wonder.

Now, in order to understand this (as well as the list), there are two different levels of a one hit wonder. Billboard does list the meaning of the title as an artist or a group that makes the Top 40 charts only once. Some artists, however, as you will see on this blog that I list, are also known for having a song that makes the Hot 100, sometimes barely missing the Top 40 or not even coming close. A good example, despite not being on my list, are artists like The Weather Girls, or even The Waitresses, who had well-known songs for their genres, but didn’t even see the Top 40. There are even some artists that have had a few Top 40 songs (The Outfield, Nu Shooz, Taylor Dayne, Pretty Poison, Quiet Riot, Corey Hart, Falco), but get recognition over time for one song that stood out even if the ones before charted or after.

Some artists that were considered for this list, but get an honorable mention instead are Spider “New Romance”, Nice & Wild “Diamond Girl”, Sabrina “Boys”, Prism “Don’t Let Her Know”, Company B “Fascinated”, Shannon “Let The Music Play”, & Idle Eyes “Tokyo Rose”. But nevertheless, these are the Top 15, descending downward until my #1 pick.

#15. QFeel “Dancing in Heaven” (#75 in 1989)

This British Synthpop group epitomize the novelty route in my opinion. Only one album was released by them in 1982. When the single was 1st issued, it went into the “Bubbling Under” portion oh the Hot 100 (a spot given to the 101-125 most played singles in the U.S.), seeing the #110 spot. By 1984, the band had dissolved and went away. But a reissue of the single 7 years later saw a small climb, making it to #75, giving it a tad of a resurgence. Frontman Martin Page went on to get a solo hit of his own in 1984, 10 years after the band split with “In The House of Stone and Light”

#14. Timex Social Club “Rumors” (#8 in 1986)

Admit it, you have sung this song at least ONCE in your lifetime. Hell, even listened to the chorus over and over again “Look at all these rumors, surrounding me everyday. I just need some time, some time to get away”. Timex Social Club was a R&B/ Soul/Hip Hop crew that like the artist above, only released one album. Rumors was their only visit to the Top 40, with 2 subsequent singles only going to the R&B Charts.

#13. Dan Reed Network “Ritual” (#38 in 1988)

The drum beats. The funky bass line. The proclamation of love. The Dan Reed Network came onto the scene and just made the charts only once, with their debut single in 1988. They had the power of legendary rock record producer Bruce Fairbarn on their side and seemed poised to do no wrong. But as we have all witnessed in terms of rock bands and their visits on the charts, they do tend to drop out of sight, as further singles didn’t chart and the band went on hiatus by 1993, with Reed going onto do a solo career.

#12. Charlie “It’s Inevitable” (#38 in 1983)

The title for this next song definitely fits the mold, and describes it to a tee. The band was relatively unknown in the United States, and not much success in their native UK. A few minor splashes on the Hot 100 came and went, but it was thanks to a video on MTV featuring a pie fight that caught the attention, and even a small dent, just entering the Top 40. The album that accompanied it proved to be a flop, and the band split afterwards.

#11. Opus “Live is Life” (#32 in 1986)

The Austrian pop-rock act was a worldwide one hit wonder with the song. Italy, France, & the UK, even a #1 in Canada. The song itself is played to this day at soccer games all around the world. Austria, Switzerland, and the Netherlands saw more from them on the charts, but to this day remains the signature song.

#10. Kim Mitchell “Go For A Soda” (#86 in 1985)

The unique Mr. Mitchell has been around for years. Before this song became a minor hit in the States and Classic Rock stations, he was the guitarist/frontman for Canadian rock band Max Webster. By 1982, he went solo & released a slew of hit albums in the Great White North. This song was the only one to make any impact in the States, however. “Go For A Soda” has been used in Mr. Pibb commercials, featured on Miami Vice, FOX cartoon American Dad, and even brought to a new fanbase being in an episode of Trailer Park Boys.

#9. Breakfast Club “Right on Track” (#7 in 1987)

A band who had a unique sound and groove to them. What many may find hard to believe, are two of the names who came through this lineup: American Idol judge Randy Jackson (who joined at the height of their newfound fame), and a female who played drums that became one of the more famous names of the last 3 decades…you may know that woman as Madonna (yep, she did more than sing people, random fact!). They only released one album, with another recorded but never issued, and had this catchy song break the Top 10. The music video was unique, with a feel kind of eerie to Pee Wee’s Playhouse, even featuring legendary game show host Wink Martindale. But a few more singles and one minor chart appearance later that just missed the Top 40, the Club decided to end their session.

#8. Oran “Juice” Jones “The Rain” (#9 in 1986)

“Now close your mouth, ’cause you’re cold busted!” Don’t worry, I’m not telling YOU to shut up, those are just a few words from this R&B gem. Mr. Jones, a former Naval Academy Brigade Commander as well as USMC sniper officer (yep, you heard right), applied his trade to the music industry and scored big with this tale of catching his woman cheating on him. Has that old school feel to it, but halfway through, we go from singing to a spoken rap, featuring the line above. Definitely a catchy one. Other singles and albums failed to catch on, and Jones left the industry to take care of his ill mother and raise his children.

#7. Device “Hanging On A Heart Attack” (#35 in 1986)

Device were one of those experimental bands that had a sound and a style, & were even made for MTV back in the day. Unfortunately, the collaboration lasted all of one year, and dissolved by 1987. The song was a 2nd Top 40 hit for singer/bass player/keyboardist Holly Knight, who went to #39 in 1981 with her previous act, Spider (New Romance was the hit song for them). Singer Paul Engemann went on to join Animotion and score a Top 10 single with “Room to Move” (Sorry people, “Obsession”, despite what you hear, WASN’T their only hit song, and they even had another Top 40 hit between those two songs. And side note, Engemann recorded the original version of “Obsession” with Knight on vocals back in 1983!).

#6. Baltimora “Tarzan Boy” (#13 in 1985)

An Italo Disco act with mystery surrounding who their true vocalist was. While many feel that Maurizio Bassi was the true voice of the band, the man in the music videos (and oh how cheesy this one was indeed!) singing and dancing was Jimmy McShane. Nobody knows who truly was the voice, and not even the members of the band would say either! The song became a worldwide hit, even returning to the charts in 1993 just missing the Top 50. Although they would score several more hits internationally, the US, the UK, Austria, Canada, & France would never see anything more from them. Sadly, McShane passed away in 1995, but the song  will forever be a dance classic and a part of 80s history.

#5. Martin Briley “The Salt in My Tears” (#36 in 1983)

Martin Briley was known as a session musician, having worked with such names as Meat Loaf, Olivia Newton-John, Cliff Richard, and Donna Summer to name a few. He released his debut solo album, Fear of the Unknown, in 1981. But it wasn’t until 1983’s One Night With A Stranger that saw his biggest success, the album going to #55, and “The Salt in My Tears” cracking the Top 40. The song about a bitter breakup and the feelings felt, the video featuring him with his signature beret playing his guitar while the ex is moving out and the room is emptied. Briley had a minor follow up called “Put Your Hands on the Screen”, but went back to songwriting for other artists and has been mostly out of the limelight since his last album in 1985.

#4. Sam Harris “Sugar Don’t Bite” (#36 in 1984)

The year was 1983. Star Search was about to finish its 1st season on TV. The Grand Champion of that season was this 22-year old from Oklahoma. Although known for his signature rendition of “Over The Rainbow” from that show, it led to a recording contract and in 1984 he scored on the charts with this song. Coincidentally, not even a year or so later, Madonna released “Papa Don’t Preach”…a song that sounded eerily similar to this one. Needless to say, the writers of this song sued and won due to copyright infringement. He is mostly known for performing in musicals, his Star Search fame, and even co-created a sitcom that ran on TBS for 4 seasons, Down to Earth. Surprisingly enough, Sam isn’t too fond of the song & hasn’t performed it pretty much since the mid-80s.

#3. Nik Kershaw “Wouldn’t It Be Good” (#46 in 1984)

Considered by music legend Elton John to be one of the greatest songwriters of his time, Nik Kershaw was a British artist who came onto the scene with Human Racing. Although the song just barely missed the Top 40, it climbed to #46 based on heavy rotation for the MTV video, which had used chroma key effects. Although huge in his native UK, this proved to be his signature song in the States.

#2. Nolan Thomas “Yo Little Brother” (#57 in 1984)

Not even out of his teenage years, and this kid scored a minor, yet memorable hit on the pop charts…but the controversy was that he didn’t even sing on this particular track! Marko Kalfa, aka Nolan Thomas, released this track off his debut (and what appears to be only) album in ’84, but a guy named Elan Lanier sung on the track. The music video is considered somewhat of a cult classic. Nolan in his really tacky outfit looking for a brother dressed up as Billy Idol. The video featured a few young kids dressed like famous singers of that year: Bruce Springsteen, Prince, Idol, Cyndi Lauper, & Rik Ocasek of the Cars, calling themselves the Vid Kids. The Kids toured along with Thomas (footage is out there of Nolan actually singing the song at a roller skating rink with the Billy Idol impersonating kid from the video, no lip synching involved at all and pretty damn good too). By 1989, Thomas recorded a single under his real name, but wasn’t heard from again. However, he is now known as the Co-Owner of fashion company Guido New York.

And now, this brings me to the #1 spot. There were plenty of songs that could go here. However, one song just caught me off guard since the first time I heard it in 2009. I just went “Hmm….this song is unique, catchy, and danceable”

#1. Paul Lekakis “Boom Boom Boom (Let’s Go Back To My Room)” (#43 in 1987)

One of those NRG dance hits that is just beyond controversial for it’s lyrics. A Greek-American singer, Lekakis was discovered in Italy while on an assignment doing some modeling. When 1987 rolled around, the single was released and immediately climbed to the Top 10 in the Dance charts, #2 in Canada, #1 in Australia/Japan/South Africa. It took almost 3 years until his debut album came out, but when it did, the album wasn’t a commercial success. Some lyrics to the song include “How about coming back to my room for a little boom boom?” & “Let’s go back to my room so we can do it all night and you can make me feel right”. Although he has had several songs appear on the dance charts, he hasn’t made the Hot 100 since his little dance hit about having a little boom boom.

So that is my Top 15 list for the 80s. And you can totally expect more tubular one hit wonder lists down the road for some other great decades. But of course, let the controversy begin as to this list for my choices and who else should be included or should have been. I prefer the not-too-famous songs or the songs that weren’t too popular and kind of obscure myself.

Winter weather….yikes!

So for those of you who follow this blog, be it on Facebook or Twitter through my links, or even who found it through my tags, you might notice I live in New York. Right in the middle, the heart and the soul of the Finger Lakes region. It’s a really nice place at times. However, the Wintertime is a bitch. Since Thursday, we have had random snowfall, nothing like that storm New York City got a couple of days ago, but something like that. There are a few things though that grind my gears about this time of the year. And after some debate, I decided to state my case about this area.

The drivers themselves

Now these people do piss me off royally. There is a reason that the state has SPEED LIMIT SIGNS all over the place. I mean, sure, the State speed limit might say 55 miles per hour when you are travelling the backroads. BUT, in this kind of weather, and especially this time of the year, is it truly necessary to do so? The other day, near my area of residence, there were two accidents, one of them both drivers lost their lives. The reason? People lost control of their vehicles. The roads are truly slippery this time of the year. Most people though think that the snow tires on their cars are fine and are ok to go speeding in at this time of the year, but just wait until they come across that patch of black ice of that rough sheet of snow covering the road. There are always jokes about how us New Yorkers like to “bring on the snowfall” while we drive, but once that accident occurs with us behind the wheel, or to someone close to us, it becomes a whole different story.

The Town highway people

There are plenty of reasons the towns we live in have highway vehicles. To check on building ordinances, properties to make sure we aren’t over-stepping our boundaries, but another thing they are here to do is to plow our roads and make them safe for us to drive this time of the year. Driving into the ever-oh-so-popular radio station this morning, the roads were pathetic. Shit. Garbage. We didn’t get his with much snow last night, maybe less than 1/2 of an inch if anything, but still. The point is, there is slush all over the roads. Three towns to be exact that I have to cross to get to this place. A 20 minute drive that took over an hour and 15 because the roads looked whiter than white. The highway plows need to get on the ball and do their jobs so us people can avoid accidents or near-accidents!

#EndRant

I don’t read the fine print

A little side note: The views expressed in “Shoot From The Hip” are those from the writer, LR Adams, & nobody else. I speak on how I views it, how I see it, and if you don’t like it…there’s the little “X” on the side of the web browser to exit the tab. If you made it this far, get ready for a glimpse into this mind.

“I don’t read the fine print”

These words were uttered to me today by a customer whose order I had taken…and it sadly expresses how much of society today as a consumer is. We all see the coupon in the newspaper or in the mail…a freebie with the purchase of a product of equal or lesser value. It just so happens that where I am employed, we have these coupons for the Holiday season. Buy a free sandwich, get one free…as long as it isn’t a dollar sandwich.

So back to a story, I took an order, the guy placed his order with his drinks and got his items. Not even 10 seconds later, “WHERE ARE MY HASH BROWNS???”.  In the civil manner I have, I explained to said customer that the coupon he used was only for the sandwiches, it doesn’t include the meal, and his next statement was “I ordered the meal”. So I gave the guy his “extra” for the meal that he wanted that wasn’t included in the coupon (that ow to wow method if you can call it so) & explained that the coupon itself was only for sandwiches and it explained so in the coupon, large print. And the words I have used for the title of THIS blog, were the next words as he walked off.

Now my personal thought, I cannot stand this. Not the first time, and it won’t be the last time either it will happen. Just the other week, someone came in and asked to use his free fry/drink coupon and when asked which one he wanted (as the coupon is for a certain sandwich which is either a chicken or a burger type), he just said he wanted the “Bacon”, the sandwich with “Bacon” in it….ay ay ay. Oy vey. Mingia fach.

Just because a coupon says “free” on it…doesn’t mean it is what you want. There is and always will be some sort of catch. Free large sandwich….excludes dollar menu items. Buy one get one…doesn’t include small drink, small sandwich. People see that one 4-letter “F” word (not my favorite one, but the one that gets that extra one without paying for it), & immediately they go into “It’s for anything” mode! When you explain or try to explain that they need to pay attention to the coupon in its entirety, you get the “Oh” response. The fine print is there for a reason…learn to read it. Sure the font is a 2-size, you might need to squint to see what it is that has to be read, but it is critical to your purchase. It will save you a lot of energy (& time) when you place your order, plus it can also avoid (oh my God…am I saying this….*gasp*) confrontation people!

I know today’s society is all about being in a hurry to get where you need to be, but come on! Slow down, smell the flowers, and look at what the words are before you get angry over a missing hash brown that didn’t come with the purchase!